Not my current one, if anything I am trying to push her to experiment a little more.

I have a lot of stories like this. When I was a teenager my first girlfriend suggested anal and I wasn’t too keen on it. Then in my twenties a partner suggested we have a threesome with her friend in a roundabout way that I didn’t realize at the time and turned her down. Same partner also suggested analingus and anal, which I declined. A later girlfriend wanted me to choke her out and I also declined.

The irony is that all of these are table stakes for my current partnerships. 🤣

if you're good to share, what made you change your mind? experience or just a change in thought process?

I think a big part of how humans become comfortable with anything is familiarity. I’m sure you’re familiar with the concept of acquired taste. A lot of delicacies aren’t immediately and obviously delicious but through repeat exposure people become accustomed to them and learn to appreciate them. I think it’s the same with sex. For a long time I was adamantly against being called daddy and introducing any kind of age play or DDlg.

Now it’s one of my main kinks. In the beginning it didn’t do anything for me. Now I find it hot. Research helps. With anal I only became comfortable with it after reading up on it and learning how to do it for maximum enjoyment of my partner. And then I had life support training which made me more adventurous with breath play. Also independently studied airways and nervous system for rope play.

I should say that porn also played a part

Seeing particular scenes triggers fantasies and desires

I just want to emphasize that just because I grew to like these things doesn’t mean that everyone should. As a general rule you shouldn’t pressure your partners into things, especially sexually, and you shouldn’t expect that people will be into the same things you are. In my experience, I am no longer dating the people who wanted to do these things with me. But later in life found others. Sometimes it is not about the act itself but about the person. I find that many people report they find me trustworthy and easily let me engage in various kinks with them contrary to their previous experiences with cishet men. But on occasion there will be partners who will say no. And that’s fine. It then becomes a conversation on whether any particular lack of kink in your relationship is a dealbreaker. You are entitled to date people who are on the same page as you. And so are your partners. If some kink is so important to you that it negates all other aspects of a relationship, then you should look for people you can engage in that with. Real life is complex and it is not very common for people to perfectly align kink-wise, let alone generally.

I’ve never done anal with a partner before (pretty basic I know). Recently a partner brought up that she might like for me to put it in her butt. Me being the open-minded lover that I am, I obliged but suggested we start out with toys. She loved it, but I felt a little weird the whole time. Anal sex, not for me.

Am pretty much open to everything 'cept people playing with my nips, tail or wanting to put me in a dress. Which 30% of partners have expressed an interest inAm not sure about the nips thing. When someone starts playing or sucking on them it unleashes an immediate and unhinged deep-seated fury. Takes all I can to restrain and gently guide them away, mentioning not to go there. I do wonder what the hell that's all about.

I’m the same way. I don’t like my nipples being touched at all.

Hello everyone I’m new here. And I’m very kinky. And down for about everything, and I do mean everything. But there are four things I’ll never be able to do 1-blood, 2-scat, 3- ball busting, 4- be a top with a male.

I experience this issue with my partners saying no. I'm super open to experiencing everything at least once....if I can. Minus scat, animals and children (yep apparently it has to be said). I certainly have my "primary kinks", one of which is impact play. I am a very dominant alpha female IRL and I find a euphoric sense of relief from it. Alot of my partners in the past find this one particularly difficult to get into.

the thing i can't do? *hums paradise by the dash board lights* Anyone who leads with their fetlife account. not because i'm not kinky or prudish or whatever but the communication on that platform has been so bizarre and traumatizing, that I just can't even.

oh and scat/blood/anything that requires phenomenal amount of time to get ready: otherwise i can roll with a lot.

I agree. Issue being I find alot of the men especially who are into it to that extent want a certain dynamic I'm not interested in. Master/slave to be specific.

I have favourites depending on my mood for sure. Thuddy would be heavy paddles or fist. Stingy whips. Or canes depending where.