Exclusively blaming ex partners for break ups.

A mismatch between their words and their actions.

Complimenting me too much or asking about my feelings a lot.

Poor alignment of romantic feelings/involvement and expectations of what the relationship is or isn’t and where it’s going.

Not understanding that your feelings and thoughts are your own responsibility. Blaming others. Being a victim in every possible situation.

Dissing an ex-partner!

Lack of experience doing ethical non-monogamy, lack of self-awareness, and emotional intelligence. Lack of strong sense of self-worth and inner security.