8 Facts about Threesomes That Will Blow Your Mind

Threesomes are one of the most common sexual fantasies portrayed in popular media. This popularity has resulted in the spread of quite a number of myths and misconceptions about threesomes. Here are 8 facts to challenge them.

Fact #1: A threesome will not fix your monogamous relationship.

We've seen it time and time again, a struggling monogamous couple who think that inviting a third person into their bed will magically solve all the issues in their relationship. A weak foundation will most likely crumble under the pressure of being intimate with another person at the same time -threesomes are only fun when the relationship is built on a strong basis.

Fact #2: Folks from all gender identities fantasize about threesomes.

The popular misconception is that threesomes are exclusively a male fantasy. One's gender identity is often not related in any way, shape, or form to a preferred sexual fantasy, which means that threesomes can be the dream scenario of anyone regardless of the gender they identify as.

Fact #3: Bisexual folks are not always on the lookout for couples to have threesomes with.

One major misconception that stems from porn is that bisexuals are always happy to engage in threesomes with couples, which has lead to the very toxic and predatory behavior called "unicorn hunting". There are bisexuals out there who are more than happy to have threesomes with couples, but don't assume someone is automatically interested just because they identify as bisexual.

Fact #4: Threesome combinations are endless.

There is a widespread misconception that women involved in threesomes are often queer, which is not the case. Heterosexual women and men, non-binary folks, queer folks, and folks from all gender identities and sexualities can come together.

Fact #5: Three folks in a polyamorous relationship are not a threesome.

A polyamorous relationships involves being intimate or in romantic relationships with more than one partner while a threesome is three people engaging in sexual activities together -it's not the same.

Fact #6: Heterosexual men having threesomes with their partner and other guys can do it from a place of joy.

While some men might enjoy the humiliation aspect of seeing their partner with other guys, not all are in it for that experience. It can also be coming from a place of happiness of sharing the person they love and seeing them happy.

Fact #7: Threesomes are not only for couples who want to spice up their marriage.

Another misconception we see time and time again in mainstream media is the couple who are bored in their marital relationship and are trying to find someway to blow life into their connection again. While that is true for some, and opening up a relationships that is strong and steady can help grow a deeper connection, it's not just a tool to spice up the marriage.

Fact #8: You can have a threesome with someone and remain their friend.

People usually tend to seek strangers for threesomes out of fear of ruining their close relationships. While that is a completely valid concern, with the right amount of communication and compatibility: not only can you have threesomes with friends, you can remain their friend after and nothing can change in your dynamic -and it's OK if it does change.

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