soo...you've set up your dating profile on every app your phone could download, added your best pictures and punniest lines, and waited....then waited some more...and, well, nothing happened; no quality matches and no new connections.
then let's be honest, this is probably you right now 👇
but, before you put on your loser hat and curse the universe, let’s explore together how we can better that profile of yours to make it work for you rather than against you. and if all fails, at least you know you have a kick-ass dating profile that will be remembered by all—okay, maybe that’s a little dramatic but you get it.
you’re probably asking yourself: why should I put effort into my profile if I already know the apps aren’t working? well, simply put, it is often the first impression that someone will have of you when looking for a potential partner online. A well-crafted dating profile can increase your chances of attracting someone who is a good match for you and help you stand out among other profiles. In other words, your lack of effort is showing and it’s hurting your matches.
Still not convinced? Here are more reasons why putting effort into your dating profile is important:
By taking the time to create a thoughtful and detailed profile, you demonstrate that you are committed to finding a meaningful relationship.
Your dating profile is an opportunity to showcase your personality, interests, and values. This can help attract like-minded individuals and increase your chances of finding a compatible partner.
By being clear about your preferences and deal-breakers in your profile, you can save yourself time and energy by avoiding matches that are not a good fit for you.
A well-crafted dating profile can make you more approachable and give others a sense of what it might be like to date you. This can encourage people to reach out and start a conversation.
Now that’s out of the way, allow us to share some tips that can help you make these thing above true—in the best way you can:
Using high-quality photos that are clear, well-lit, and show you in a positive light. Avoid using blurry or low-quality photos, and make sure to include a mix of different types of photos, such as a headshot, full-body shot, and photos that showcase your interests and personality. If you’re not a fan of the awkward selfies, set up your phone (or bribe a friend to do it) to take shots of you doing something you like (cooking, reading, etc.); it will show potential matches what they can do with you and spare you the embarrassment of that one weird and awkward selfie we all know you have.
be honest and authentic. Be truthful about who you are, your interests, and what you're looking for in a partner. Don't try to be someone you're not, as this can lead to disappointment and misunderstandings down the line. this is also where it's important to be ethical about dating and be clear and open with what you're really looking for. whether you're a couple, in it for the long-term, or looking for casual sex/hook-ups, state it clearly so you don't waste your and others' time. put a little more thought and effort into how you want to portray yourself to viewers of your profile.
Your bio is your chance to showcase your personality and give potential matches a sense of who you are. however, Keep it concise and engaging, highlighting your interests, values, and what you're looking for in a relationship. don’t fall into the trap of trying to catch every detail and nuance of who you are/what your life is. Allow them to have curiosity about you. Just say what’s important and let them find the rest from you.
Don't be afraid to show your personality and sense of humor in your profile. This can make you more approachable and help potential matches feel like they have a sense of what it might be like to date you. Don’t shy away from sharing those little personality traits and interests that you think are uncool or nerdy, someone out there is looking for your specific strand of weird, allow them to find you.
make use of what the dating app is providing you. this is where diversity is key in showcasing who you are. make use of memes, quotes, personal pictures, and text to fortify your storytelling and allow your personality to shine through different mediums without having to read long texts.
here are some quick additional tips—because you can never have enough:
- Be specific about your interests: Mention specific hobbies or activities that you enjoy, as this can help you attract like-minded individuals who share your interests.
- Avoid clichés: Try to avoid using overused phrases or clichés in your profile. Instead, focus on being original and authentic in your writing.
- Be respectful and positive: Avoid negativity or bitterness in your profile. Instead, focus on being respectful and positive in your writing, as this can make you more appealing to potential matches.
these tips were shared by our members on our latest campfire. getting feedback from real people who get you and know what others are looking for is the best way to better your profile. Sometimes the best person to ask are strangers on the internet who are ready to grant the gift of radical honesty, shared experience, and kindness and understanding. join us and find the community you’ve been looking for!